The first awkward encounter
Unsure of what to say
Constantly thinking how am I coming across?
Am I giving a good first impression?
Is the person in front of me genuine?
Or another waste of time?
The truth shall soon be revealed
Supposedly we’re both on our best behaviour
Merely a fraction of our authentic self
Overthinking every word and decision
Pause for a minute
Discover a world beyond awkwardness
Free yourself from the fear
Live in the moment
Let your personality shine through
You may actually enjoy this first date.
Although it may take a while to get comfortable, don’t let that little factor put you off. The age-old saying comes in to play, regardless of how cliché. It’s still relevant in this day and age, to be yourself. But we all experience a few nerves from time-to-time. I wanted to help ease that feeling, especially on first dates. These tips aren’t exclusively for dating, use them in other aspects of life. That upcoming networking event, a friend’s birthday party where no-one is familiar or an industry function. Easily adaptable tips so you can live your best life in 2019.
Tips and Tricks
Location, location, location.
Be mindful when choosing a location and the type of date you want. Dinners are a cliché date night idea, however, are you willing to commit a few hours to the date? You may want to call it a night after the first course. Instead opt for a lunch date or drinks at a café or bar, whichever appeals to you more. Take into consideration the settings. If a venue is too noisy how will you engage in conversation and get to know one another?
Honesty whilst communicating.
Be honest, yet polite. The advice I need to take myself, as I can be a brutal savage at times. Back on the topic of first dates. If you’re not enjoying the date simply say I need to get home and excuse yourself. There’s no need for theatrics, a bogus excuse or a pre-planned call from a friend. Another example, use your voice and make things clear. Don’t compromise your own values to make someone else feel comfortable.
It may be difficult in a tech-savvy society, but don’t be half-hearted. I urge you to pay attention, enjoy every moment and be less consumed by your phone. Allow the individual at least an hour of undivided attention. The time will allow you to decide if you’re compatible, have chemistry and want another date.
- If you could go anywhere right now, where would you choose?
- What do you look for in a friendship?
- Which genres boost your mood and why?
- What artists have you seen perform live?
- If you could be front row at a concert, who would you go and see?
- Living in the city, what do you enjoy most about it?
- What series are you watching right now?
- What did you want to become as a child?
- Which comedians make you laugh?
- Tell me one thing that’s on your bucket list.
What are your successful first date tips?
Until next time, stay fabulous,